or you take what you've learned from the past and try to help a guy through a tough time. you said all women are not paint by numbers, if you love her go after her. blah blah blah.. he did, she told him she was with another guy. shocking. so if he'd just followed the advice given he wouldnt have said i love you only to be kicked in the nuts and be told she was cheating on him. looks like the advice, almost unanimously agreed to be great advice, that i gave, wasn't so bad afterall. because most women are paint by numbers. MOST women are the same and MOST relationships end similarly. i to this day have not seen a woman break up with a friend out of the blue, pre meditated, when another guy was not the reason. maybe when i do, i'll start to believe they aren't all the same. which is fine, it's the way they're wired. all men are the same to.