She has a few actual friends as well, ones that console her about the divorce, give her the 'good for you' treatment. One is a girlfriend that broke up with her long term boyfriend last year, soon to be ex helped her through it. This same girlfriend comes from a divorced household and i know for a fact she has assured her on several occasions that divorce is fine, the kids will be okay.
Told me she lost respect for me because I've missed so much work, I had a really bad back, I did miss work. But it's not like at the time she was downing me for it, we were enjoying ourselves for the most part. Plus, she used to ask me to stay home all the damn time from work because she didn't want to deal with the kids, or she had a headache.
It's like out of no where she just decided she wanted to grow up, that things were never changing and it was time to move on and this is her idea of growing up. She quit a half decent job while I was off work, I didn't rag on her about it. Complained her boss was a real asshole and she didn't deserve to be treated like that. She never went back to work, decided she would be a stay at home mom .. then she told me she didn't want to go back to work, she wanted to go back to school.
She actually left at the start of March, moved to her parents. Took all her things, the kids and left. Told me how she had lost respect for me, I was her best friend but didnt love me anymore. All the good stuff. Then all of a sudden she was going to get a job instead of going back to school. A few days after she left, she asks me to come over, she's crying about how horrible it is there, she doesn't have a car, parents will not let her have anyone over. Asks to come back, but needs her space.
Three straight weeks of her just going out, doing what she wanted. Not telling me anything. From like 6pm-1am almost eveynight. Wouldn't change in front of me, slept in a different blanket. Then I find out that this guild summit they are having was planned on the same weekend as our anniversary. She had responded that she couldn't go because it was our anniversary .. I was touched, then I see the post removed and the date changed to 2 weeks later.
I flipped out, came home and sure enough, shes sitting on TS with the GM (who is organising it), they literally changed the date so she could go. Talk about some serious bs.
It's so hard to wrap my head around it, how someone can do all these things and justify it to themselves. Then expect me to be civil and friendly to her because we have kids. The last 3 or so weeks I haven't talked to her other than swapping the kids, and she got mad at me because I wasn't saying hi or bye to her. I wasn't being an ass, I just had nothing to say. Would give my kids there hugs and kisses then leave.
BLAH! I could bitch all fucking night. I know I got to move forward, but it's like I'm forced to be friendly and get along with the devil.