Keeps getting more and more baffling by the day.
So this weekend I didn't have the kids, they were with her. Daughter has dance class every Saturday and I decided to show up for it. Get there .. they aren't there. I wait 15 minutes (so I don't come off harassing her) and give her a call. Just so happened she was pulling into the parking lot.
Told me she was late because my son was throwing a huge fit in the car, she had to turn around on the highway and go back home, drop him off with her dad. Apparently it was because he didn't want to wear his jacket .. so instead of just taking it off she dumped him with grandpa. I asked her why she didn't just take the jacket off and she said she wasn't going to give into his whining. So, it was the first time she brought the kids to dance by herself and she already couldn't do it. I went 5 weeks in a row and had both of them with me just fine.
This is when it gets really fantastical and interesting. We were standing there watching my daughter when she asks me out of no where if I plan on staying at my moms for the time being. I told her I had no reason not to, but I might have a new job and I would consider moving closer to the location. She asks me what kind of job and I told her .. and of course, she laughed at me, saying how I don't have any experience in that field. Told her I would get trained and I was looking forward to the skills I would pick up.
So then, she drops the bomb on me. Tells me that the government got back to her in regards to her application for assisted housing and they told her she needs to have proof of full custody of the kids to qualify. She seriously asked me for full custody of the kids so she can go live in welfare housing with them.
Of course I said no, she said that she would be out of a place to live in July after her parents sold there house. Explained to her that I was not going to give up my legal rights to my children so she can go live in welfare housing. Who knows, in 2 years she could have a different job and not need the welfare anymore .. then I'm out of any legal decisions for my children.
She kept saying that I would be putting her out of a home and I told her that I would never settle for anything more than 50 / 50 custody. Then she asks me if I'm worried that she wouldn't let me see the kids after she had custody and I explained it had nothing to do with her, it had to do with my legal rights to my children. She said I could still have them every other week like we are doing now and I still refused. Told her I would never change my mind on the subject.
Today, when she dropped the kids off she asked me to help her out with grocery money when the kids go to her place for the week. I agreed. But want to know what's once again just so puzzling about that request? I offered her money (handed her a check) 2 weeks ago when she took the kids for her first week and she refused it. Told me she would be fine on her own. Didn't need it.
So, in 3 weeks she has refused my child support money, then asked me for full custody of the kids (when she couldn't even handle bringing both to dance) and then asks me for financial support after refusing it .. what a mind fuck.
Seeing how I'm off work for now and on employment insurance I make just as much as she does. She also gets the child tax money (I haven't bothered going after it) and she needs financial support? Her parents make her suppers. We both got half the savings money when I told her to leave.
Oh and another thing. I looked into the whole welfare housing and full custody thing. She can't give me the kids in a 50 / 50 type of arrangement because she can be reported for not having them and get evicted .. she doesn't even fully know what she's getting into.
She also brought up the divorce mediator / company I had told her about. Asking me when I wanted to start that up. I told her I wasn't in no hurry, wasn't looking to stall nothing but at the same time I'm enjoying myself and not looking to start huge arguments about anything for now.
I love this girl, I do. I worry about her and care for her. But I'm not in love with her. She is just so over the damn place it makes no sense.