Mod-Chip
Rookie
In keeping with the tone of the new year's resolutions topic, where people attempt to improve their upcoming year by keeping faithful to some goal or ideal, I think it's also important to reflect back on the previous year and figure out something that you have learned. This could be anything from advice to a realization, but in essence it's something you think is valuable and believe others should know about.
For me, 2010 taught me that open relationships are myths. I wrongly believed that they could work as long as both individuals are cognizant of the surrounding jealousy issues and understood sex outside of the relationship as carrying forth no emotions, therefore incapable of deteriorating the original love. Boy was I wrong. I suppose that getting into an open relationship is already symptomatic of something wrong with the relationship, therefore any attempts to maintain the original connection while sleeping around with other people is paradoxical (for me anyways) because the love was originally built in a monogamous setting. So yeah, don't think you can have your cake and eat it too. Because you can't, and you end up dearly paying for it.
That and, if you have the possibility to travel (and I'm not talking about going on a cliched tour package bs trip), to really travel, do it. Seriously. It doesn't even have to be another country; visit another city, go down hiking trails, roam the countryside. The people you'll meet and (ostensibly) the things you will learn are going to far outweigh the comforts of a mediocre job and a close-knit group of friends.
Your turn!
BBK
For me, 2010 taught me that open relationships are myths. I wrongly believed that they could work as long as both individuals are cognizant of the surrounding jealousy issues and understood sex outside of the relationship as carrying forth no emotions, therefore incapable of deteriorating the original love. Boy was I wrong. I suppose that getting into an open relationship is already symptomatic of something wrong with the relationship, therefore any attempts to maintain the original connection while sleeping around with other people is paradoxical (for me anyways) because the love was originally built in a monogamous setting. So yeah, don't think you can have your cake and eat it too. Because you can't, and you end up dearly paying for it.
That and, if you have the possibility to travel (and I'm not talking about going on a cliched tour package bs trip), to really travel, do it. Seriously. It doesn't even have to be another country; visit another city, go down hiking trails, roam the countryside. The people you'll meet and (ostensibly) the things you will learn are going to far outweigh the comforts of a mediocre job and a close-knit group of friends.
Your turn!
BBK
