ive noticed shes changed alot the last couple years or so; shes not the same person i married ten years ago. then i happened to see a facebook exchange a few months ago between her and someone else that i guess she thought i wouldnt see that told me what id already suspected.
we have car payments and a house mortgage between us and neither one of us can really afford to take on one or the other alone, so for now we're just existing. its not bitter or hateful. just existing.
icing on the cake: her mom moved in with us a few months ago.