500 Days of Bull$#!*

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  1. WickedLiquid

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    ITT we discuss tips on how to get over a broken heart. And no, it's not about me, it's about..... ummm, a friend of a friend of mine....
     
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  2. MattAY

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    Look at the pros - no one will bitch about what you do in your free time. You can look at porn whenever you want. You can lounge around naked if you wish (perhaps not when frying with oil), you can hang out with your mates more, you can probably get really really drunk and have no inhibitiions (including stumbling into a strip club). You can watch tv on the weekend evenings without her going, "WERE WATCHING X-FACTOR FOR 3 HOURS!" You can eat what you want. Get fat - get thin. Go nuts. You can focus more on yourself, what you want and where you want to go.

    Cons - No regular sex. But I hear stories that after a while, it just gets plain old with the same person and you'd cheat on each other anyway.
     
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  3. Wes

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    I think everyone has been there WL, how severe was it from 1-10? A 1 being it was mutual for all the right reasons but you'll still miss her, a 10 being she was sleeping with your best friend behind your back and now they're getting married.

    The first thing you have to do right away is delete her from everything. Delete her from facebook, myspace, get rid of her number, etc. This is an incredibly difficult step but in order to get over her, you have to forget about her. And you're never going to if you're reading her FB status updates and trying to figure out what she's up to. If you just can't do it right now then have a friend do it.

    Second is to give yourself time to heal. You can't just stop thinking about her, because trying not to think about her will just make you think about her and that'll drive you crazy (been there). You need to take a day or two to sit on the couch with a bottle of scotch and watch movies that are like 500 Days of Summer.

    Third, call up some friends, call up anybody, and go out! Go do something you enjoy doing, just get out of the house and go to a party or concert or whatever. You don't have to go out looking for someone right away, it's just to help you forget and move on.

    Fourth, no matter how hard it is to accept, she was not the one. I don't even know her, but I can tell you that if she broke your heart you don't deserve her.
     
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    Can't emphasize that one enough. I had one I kept around for a while, and it was nothing more than tormenting myself. In addition to over analyzing every one of her status updates, I'd find myself fawning over her pics far too often. Deleting her was one step in the right direction.

    You should realize what a horrible person they were. Forget anything good or nice they may have done for you, you can remember all that when your older and reflecting on death.

    The one that kills me though is thinking about missed opportunities. "I should've done that there, or this there". Don't do that, you'll drive yourself nuts.

    I'd strongly caution against alcohol as well. You are more likely to fling yourself back at her drunk then you would if sober.

    Just do what you want for a few days, and do your best to avoid thinking of them.

    Fuck bitches, getting bro's around the world down.
     
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  5. intoTheRain

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    a breakup is like quitting smoking...

    it's impossible at first, you think you were meant for each other, how can you ever live without her/your cigarettes

    you realize suddenly you stopped thinking about her/your cigarettes for a while, wow, maybe you can get over it!

    you're doing fine without her/the cigarettes, you still think about her or the cigarettes and want them from time to time, and miss them, but you're able to shrug it off quickly and do something else.

    you're free.. you now realize you never needed her/them, it was all in your head, you meet someone new and thank God you broke up with her in the first place (cant really relate that one sorry)

    love/companionship is nothing more than an addiction, more than just cigarettes can be compared. you go through the same withdrawal phases. like everyone said..

    the easiest way is to just QUIT cold turkey and get it over with.. delete her from everything, stop hanging out with friends who might bring her up (for now), just get rid of her and everything that reminds you of her. the same you would do with cigarettes if you want to quit quickly.

    if you keep having a cigarette here and there, it just severely drags out the process.just stop altogether, and it's over a hell of a lot faster. you can be friends after and talk, and be friends with your mutual friends etc. but for now, drop them.

    good luck friend!
     
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    Call up her dad and tell her he should quit having sex because at some point in his life, it caused him to create an unloving, narcissistic bitch of a daughter and scum upon the earth.
     
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    She was sleeping with someone behind my back for two months and lied about it until she was eventually caught. Then she told me if things didn't work out with the guy she'd take me back. He wasn't anyone I knew so I guess a 9 or an 8.5. It was still brutal. But part of me still wants her back, and as I type it I know it's messed up. But my heart and brain aren't co-operating.

    Thanks guys, I know I need to man up and I know I'll move on. But it's easier said than done, especially when you live alone. Kinda why I made the thread, but it is what it is. :?
     
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    definitely is. but you'll survive, guaranteed
     
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    Whoa dude

    Harsh
     
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    After hearing the story...definitely not harsh.

    Very sorry to hear that Wicked. Some people :disgust2:
     
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    Guess who needs some friendship!!! This seems like a perfect time for us to hang
     
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    Bretimus_v2 So tired.

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    Wow, Wicked, that just sucks. Complete the purge. Truth is that you want her in your life. The harder truth is you don't need her. You, however, are a stud. Get some friends over, give it time and don't talk to her ever again.
     
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  13. WickedLiquid

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    That means a lot guys, thanks again. Sometimes it's silly to make a thread like this but everyone is entitled to one drunk thread and one broken heart thread.

    For sure dude, if you still have my number drop me a text.
     
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    Sorry to hear man but hang in there you can at least catch up with your guy friends for now.
     
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    These modern girls.
     
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    Ouch, plenty of fish, time heals all, what doesn't kill you, etc. You'll make it through and you'll be a better person for it, just keep your head up.
     
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    95% of women cheat before they break up with a guy. They can't handle the thought of being alone so they need to find a new person to be with, and make sure they do want to be with them before they cut things off with their original partner.

    They usually want to have a "break" before the actual breakup comes, so they can cheat on you without a guilty conscience.

    Exact same thing happened in my first relationship of 4 years and it fucked me up royally so I have a lot of sympathy when I see other guys go through it. She found a guy that suited her new life at college, with her new friends, better than I did. So she started using her grandparents passing away as an excuse to need time and distance for a while. Then she eventually came to wanting a "break", but I said no. I said we're either together or we're done. So she decided no break, and just fucked the guy and dated him behind my back for a few months before she finally decided he did fit her new life better.

    Even after we broke up she tried to stay in contact to keep me on a leash in case he didn't work out.

    Felt kinda good the day she called me crying because she caught him in bed banging another broad. I just told her she was retarded if she stays with him. She said "he is so sorry about it and will never do it again" yada-yada. I was like that really means "I'm so sorry I got caught and will try VERY hard not to next time". And she was a retard if she stayed with him. I honestly think it was her attempt to work her way back into my life because she is that weak. Told her I had to go because Elisia and I, (my new girl I met shortly after she royally fucked me), were going out for dinner.

    Do noooooot take her back. Do not even consider it.
     
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  18. Wes

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    QFT.

    That's the worst break-up possible. Only thing that would make it worse is if the guy she cheated on you with was a friend of yours. We see it in movies, we hear about it from people we know, but you never truly understand the pain until it happens to you. I know from experience...

    I was in a 2 year relationship. I noticed she was getting more and more distant and it had me more and more worried. After about a month of her basically not talking to me she sent me a text saying "I don't love you anymore, I'm sorry." That was it, I called her and called her but she eventually changed her number. I went over to her place to talk to her but all she said "there's nothing to be said, I've fallen out of love with you. Never come back or I'll be forced to get a restraining order." It was SOOO cold and screwed me up for a long time. But I reflected upon the bad times I was unable to see because I was blinded from love. Blinded at how much of her crap I tolerated, and when I was in denial when my friends told me I didn't deserve her. It was ridiculous. But I got over it and I learned from it. Eventually I got my self-esteem back and started to work on getting my life back on track. And now I'm in a healthy relationship with someone else.

    I'm a strong believer in Karma and what goes around comes around. And just like Rain's situation, I doubt the relationship she started with this new guy will last. One of them will get hurt, she'll either cheat on him or he'll cheat on her. If he's willing to be in a relationship with her knowing what she's done to you he's most likely not as charming as she thinks. And if she broke your heart, who's to say she won't break his? Rain's got it right; in the end, the mistakes you make come back to bite you in the ass. I never found out what happened to my ex, but then again I don't care. If I had to guess I'd say she fell for a guy who know treats her like shit just like how she treated me. Or maybe she's alone and depressed because nobody will put up with her crap like I did? Who knows, who cares, it's not important to me.

    Chilling with Rakon sounds like an awesome idea. Go do something new and hang with people you normally wouldn't hang with, it'll help a lot.
     
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    Getting drunk is a bad idea. You make mistakes when you're drunk, and think crazy thoughts like "I SHOULD CALL HER." I had to wrestle with my drunken friend for his phone when his heart was broken. So alcohol is a no go.

    To anyone who ever gets their heart broken I have one simple piece of advice. Your ex is now cancer, and unless you remove the cancer it will eventually kill you. Out of sight, out of mind. Remove her from your life and let the healing begin.

    Or I could hop on a boat, drive across the lake up to Canada, find your ex and her new guy and literally rip out their hearts, kinda like the bad guy in Temple of Doom.
     
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    Just look at it this way: Were you really going to be together forever? You're young--how many adult couples that you know (as in, over age 30) have been together since they were your age? Thousands, if not millions, of couples break up every day, and the only way a relationship is considered "successful" is when one person outlives the other. So go out there, get some rebound booty, and when you are ready for it, love will find you again.
     
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